Why falling in love with cities is better than falling in love with people
When you’re single, the possibilities are endless. It doesn’t matter how old you are. You can dream the wildest dreams, and actually find ways to make them happen. Because at the end of the day, the only person you have to answer to is yourself.
But the second someone new, or even old, surfaces as something more, plans begin to change. All of a sudden those once wild dreams transform before your very eyes from things I would do, to things we could do, or things I wouldn’t do due to the risk of losing someone new. Sometimes this transformation can be temporary. Other times it’s not.
Either way, somewhere down the road you’re going to realize that all those dreams never became a part of your reality. You might have even missed out on a once in a lifetime opportunity to make them happen all because you got caught up in a we and stopped thinking about yourself.
It’s not always a bad thing. These lapses of time mold us in necessary ways. Sometimes people come into your life at a certain time for certain reasons. But that doesn’t change the fact that you caught feelings instead of catching flights.
From what I can tell you, falling in love with cities has always been a much more enriching experience than falling in love with people. Time after time, I’ve learned the hard way that people will break your heart but cities, cities will always make you whole again.
Rather than lose pieces of yourself to another person, leave them in places that taught you something new about yourself. Because if you’re going to open your heart and make yourself vulnerable, you might as well do it with something that’s going to leave you feeling full, rather than empty.